my first blog

Hello cruel world. i am going to attempt my first blog. I was inspired by a very cool blog http://www.whyrustalkingme.com/ and thought why not give it a try. hopefully i will keep this up and have a record of the past, as i cannot remember what i had for dinner last night and would like too....

I am Boki, I have a wonderful, beautiful wife "wife" and a very smart and cute little boy "boy". the names have been changed to protect the guilty.

where do i start... i am 40 years old. "wife" is 37. "boy" is 15 months. we live in NW pennsylvania and enjoy copius amounts of snow .not really, it snowed 3 inches yesterday. i am not sure of the total amount for the month but those 3 inches set a record for the month of March.... global warming my butt.

Please, no one correct my spelling or grammer. I am well versed in both, but really don't care. usually my misspellings are typos and i am too lazy to fix them. I am not editing what i write (within reason)...i just don't have the time.

"wife" and i are in the process of totally (paying someone to) gut, put an addition onto and add a second story to a house we purchased in foreclosure. It was actually a house we both liked (which has never happened before) and the price was right (cheap). a great neighborhood, just too small. which is why we were looking for a new place in the first place. it is not far from where we currently live, but the new place is on a quiet street in a more stable (non rental) neighborhood. here is a pic of the new place.

this house will not be recognizable when all is said and done. all that is left noware the outside walls and a roof that will soon be tore off before the addition of the second story. the yard is a muddy pit with all the equipment and digging of footers for existing basement walls and footers for the addition. i think if the contractors sees 3 days of no rain in the forecast the second story will go on. unfortunately there is a chance of either snow or rain every day next week. crap. the addition basement walls went up on Monday 3/24/08. I stopped today to see the house. they had the joists on the addition and a few pieces of decking down. new enormous laminated beams in the basement. needed as we are eliminating walls on the first floor and have to "beef up" the one wall we are keeping, basement included. it added some cost, but damn it is gonna be cool. one big living / dining room / kitchen with stairs, open on both sides, in the living room to the second story.
the contractor is leaving the second story for us to finish ourselves as there will be 2 bedrooms on the first floor that will be converted to office and den when the bedrooms get finished on floor 2. our contract said to stop by every day to take pics as things will progess quickly now. i can only hope.

"boy" is in the process of being adopted. his birth parents termination hearing was supposed to be yesterday, but was postponed. supposedly the judge didn't like the way the lawyers put an ad in the newspaper for the non-existent father to come forward. this is how the ad goes (I am paratyping)...

A baby was concieved on (add conception date here), if you think you could be the "baby daddy" you have 10 days to come forward or you give up your right to him/her.

how can you eff that up?

we have had "boy" since birth...his 15 month birthday was this month... he is still not "ours". I think the birth mother's lawyer dropped the ball and blamed the judge. either way, the new termination hearing date is in May. it is very frustrating, but i am sure it will all be worth it in the end. he is worth every penny we have paid (and are going to pay) the lawyers. we love him with all our hearts. i often say to people, " i tricked the most wonderful woman in the world into marrying me and then i tricked some social workers into giving us the most fantastic baby on earth". lol.

We had an ice storm a few weeks ago 3/3/08 and a giant tree limb (or 2) fell on wife's car. it was totaled. My truck was 4 feet away and didn't have a scratch. we are currently borrowing my brother-in-laws vechicle til we find one (he has a company car). money is an issue as we have a 2 mortages, 2 gas, electric, water and sewer bills. a line of credit for the new house that we are already $12,000.00 over budget on because of a foundation issue. the house didn't have any footers. go figure...aparently you need these under your basement walls, and a baby we have not seen the end of adoption expenses on.
here is the wife's car... car vs. tree.....tree wins!

Well, thus ends my first post. hope i can keep this up and i hope i can keep family and friends updated and my memories and emotions on paper, er...computer screen.

L8R,

Boki